Best moment of a Father

Going few months back in 2013 (around April 2013)

The day had finally come when a family of two grows to three. Its been quite hectic for several months with many things in our lives happening for the first time. We always felt happy seeing the babies of the proud parents and never thought from the perspective of the parents what it feel likes when someone adores your baby just from the word go with a glance.

I don't know how others have felt during this period, I am sure they would love this time for the rest of their lives. Its been really a mixed feeling of happiness and astonishment that yesterday this world treated like a boy and today I am a father. Yet the feeling did not sink in that I am going to be a father in couple of months. I still felt like an youngster.

During our hospital visits in Chennai, we used to enjoy the wait outside the doctor's cabin. Out turn would come up after four hours of waiting and let me assure you, these hours were worth waiting. We used to spend a lot of time discussing about the babies and the other children who were with their families. During the 7th month, we were advised 4D scan of the baby. We went inside the lab and the for the first time, I saw my baby- moving hands and legs on the screen. It was magical. Baby smiled as if it knew that parents were watching from outside with Love. And it also covered its forehead with hands, so as to cover the light. It was a beautiful moment of happiness which can never be described in words or can be understood by explanations or by seeing it like a movie. It has to be experienced by the parents. Those moments were magical. The minute the nurse has switched off the monitor, I demanded her to show me for another 5 minutes. She was smiling and told that their procedure wont allow her to extend the time. I begged her, my wife was laughing at my ignorance or innocence whatever- nurse was smiling too. 

For delivery, we admitted my wife in a hospital in Bangalore. I was told by my mother in law, not to look at the baby directly (Its a customary procedure to check the birth timings of baby and then whether a father can see the face of the baby immediately or after sometime doing pujas and other rituals). I agreed to her. 

We were all waiting outside the operation theater discussing about various aspects. Suddenly I heard the baby cry and I jumped out of my seat and started walking quickly here and there, peeking into the theater eagerly to see the baby. Out of excitement, I told my mother in law to take care of puja and rituals herself, I am going to see the baby right now. I can't wait anymore. This made her face red fuming with anger and disbelief.

Doctor came out of the room and his first question, who is the father. I jumped in excitement and rushed to see the baby. Doctor congratulated me saying its a baby boy. The magic is indescribable in words. THAT MOMENT is the golden moment which will remain in my heart for the rest of my life. For the next 2 hours, I was busy informing others in excitement and my phone kept buzzing with congratulatory messages and calls. 

I always advise would be fathers - not to miss the golden time of staying beside your wife during the delivery. And the most amazing mesmerizing moment when you see the kid after the delivery. Its the best .

Thanks for patient reading and please share your comments and feedback. 

Santhosh.



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Father- Inspiration

The best inspiration video I have ever come across is the speech delivered by Rocky (Sylvester Stallone) to his son on an argument that Rocky's popularity over powering his son's efforts and start blaming Rocky for his own failures.



School Kid Inspiration

This Lead India Campaign by Times of India, is one of the inspirational videos which breaks our beliefs and thoughts about how we can help, how we can get inspired even by a school kid.

 

 

Compilation Inspiration
 

This is the compilation of inspirational clips from different movies
 

Happy Help!

Happy Help! Kalvi Valarchi Educational & Charitable Trust (Egmore) is in need of 150 Unruled notebooks and 50 accounts notebooks for school children immediately. 1. Unruled Notebook- Rs. 20/- per copy 2. Account Book - Rs. 22/- per copy 3. Guides for +2(PUC) students Rs. 4100/- (for 1&2 items puttogether); Guides- pricing not available We from our community can share and help them providing the notebooks directly or proportionate funds can be remitted to their bank account. I am standing for their requirement and making it possible Trust details are as follows Kalvi Valarchi Trust Old No 12, New No 29, Egmore high road, Egmore, Chennai -08 www.Kalvicharitabletrust.com Indian Bank Account no. 6066355228 IFSC Code: IDIB000E004 Status: open (Still require funds for notebooks and guides) Santhosh Kumar 09840744255

Life and Death in 6 months!

I don’t know how life is brought into existence and millions of years of our existence, thousands of philosophers, Monks, Scientists, Researchers and learned persons try to answer these kind of questions. I really don’t know whether someone has put a life into a barren land in front of my house in Nellore. But I saw an ecosystem develop in-front of my eyes within 4 to 5 months of time span, just because of rain and the stagnated water which pumped life into small land of 400 Sq Yards. There is an open plot which is not yet developed below the road levels may by 3 feet below the normal levels. One hut used to be there which was a home for some daily wage worker, who is homeless now. Why? Because fishes and frogshave taken over his land. Yes what I wrote and what you read- is true. Fishes have overtaken his home. Now the question is- How?

There were continuous rains for 10 days without any intermittent breaks which actually forced the person to move out of this place to another area where I am unaware of . Now coming back to the same place where water is stagnant for almost 4 months and still exist,s inviting common man’s wrath, dislike and disgust but making a poorer man and his children happy. Why?. Because the algae developed, frogs creeped in and mind you there are hundreds of them including tadpoles and quite surprisingly fishes emerged from nowhere and let me tell you for this very same reason poorer families and their children are happy. Happy because they have one more game to play in real time, and time to spend with their new friends- Fishes! Children are fishing in this water with no intension to cook them but definitely to catch the fishes.




And there are lots of similar open plots present in Nellore which I feel in another 2 to 3 years time will be lost completely in the urbanization and industrializations.
I am glad that I have seen life forms being developed in such a short time span and wonder how they cease and come to an end when the water evaporates. Feel sad about it.












Santhosh Kumar.
20 Dec 2011

Life and Death in 6 months!

I don’t know how life is brought into existence and millions of years of our existence, thousands of philosophers, Monks, Scientists, Researchers and learned persons try to answer these kind of questions. I really don’t know whether someone has put a life into a barren land in front of my house in Nellore. But I saw an ecosystem develop in-front of my eyes within 4 to 5 months of time span, just because of rain and the stagnated water which pumped life into small land of 400 Sq Yards. There is an open plot which is not yet developed below the road levels may by 3 feet below the normal levels. One hut used to be there which was a home for some daily wage worker, who is homeless now. Why? Because fishes and frogshave taken over his land. Yes what I wrote and what you read- is true. Fishes have overtaken his home. Now the question is- How?

There were continuous rains for 10 days without any intermittent breaks which actually forced the person to move out of this place to another area where I am unaware of . Now coming back to the same place where water is stagnant for almost 4 months and still exist,s inviting common man’s wrath, dislike and disgust but making a poorer man and his children happy. Why?. Because the algae developed, frogs creeped in and mind you there are hundreds of them including tadpoles and quite surprisingly fishes emerged from nowhere and let me tell you for this very same reason poorer families and their children are happy. Happy because they have one more game to play in real time, and time to spend with their new friends- Fishes! Children are fishing in this water with no intension to cook them but definitely to catch the fishes.

And there are lots of similar open plots present in Nellore which I feel in another 2 to 3 years time will be lost completely in the urbanization and industrializations.
I am glad that I have seen life forms being developed in such a short time span and wonder how they cease and come to an end when the water evaporates. Feel sad about it.

Are you or am I really strong!

There is a adamant self fulfilling pseudo confidence that I know everything, & the attitude that I am successful, when we do an MBA or when we achieve something in life & careeers. We may be CEOs MDs, Chief Ministers, Presidents, Doctors etc ., & what not! I have seen the confidence everywhere in almost every person including myself.

This generation for that matter throughout the history of Mankind, this bunch of confident guys rule the world or their own worlds, irrespective from where they started & with what they started.

The whole point of dicusssion is all about the confidence gathered througout the life of a successful person. Yet there are moments in life which make them feel so powerless, so weak.



I happened to feel such kind of moments in my life too infact more than several times. The loneliness always kills when you are really alone, but it buries you when you feel loneliness among the crowd, & it sets you on fire when you are alive and feel lonely among your family & friends! I slept quite early on that night & there was a downpour of heavy rain with full of thunder & lightenings.

The noise of the rain drops fading away, the lightining scenes slowly not visible to my conscious mind, I slept. I see the same same dark pictures in the night. Heavy thunderstorms, the noise of the raindrops clearly audible, as if I am really awake. I see a a man on a scooter, switching off its headlights so that it does not awaken me. He is approaching my room with the intention to steal or to kill. He tried to reduce the noise the scooter is making, so that I can continue sleeping. I am scared. I am all alone. Yes the same loneliness is haunting me even in my dreams.I realize, noone is beside me. I am alone at home. I sense his approach, I can feel his movements through the glass doors in the ligtning background.

Now I am gathering strength & telling myself that I am going to prepare for a fight with him. Alas, I cannot open my eyes they are crushed under the burden of this dream. Scaring me more, I cannot move my hand an inch. I am trying to gather my whole strength,what God has bestowed upon me, just to move my hand by atelast 1 inch. I fail to do that. Finally I want to atleast shout for help, to no avail. I vaguely remember my fight with my own self for 15 min at the door step of death & finally succeed to open my eyes.

A sense of relief about the personal victory of opening my eyes, hearing the sounds again & moving my hand. It was a nightmare. The man was not real, neither his scooter was. I dont know about his intention to steal or kill but what's real is the feeling of my loneliness. My head was heavy, heart was void, soul was empty.All of a sudden my past success, my wealth, my strength, my power seem to be too small infront of this nightmare. I could not sleep for the next one hour thinking, that a nightmare has made me feel so powerless, what about the people who see nightmares in broadday light. It made me ponder for a while, what actually is success & what actually is strength which are relative terms.

Apologies for using the below poster-size portrait of the Afghan Girl without the permission of the photgrapher Steve McCurry,taken in 1984 in an Afghan refugee camp.

Quote:

Her eyes are sea green. They are haunted and haunting, and in them you can read the tragedy of a land drained by war. She became known around National Geographic as the "Afghan girl," and for 17 years no one knew her name.



Her name is Sharbat Gula, and she is Pashtun, that most warlike of Afghan tribes. It is said of the Pashtun that they are only at peace when they are at war, and her eyes—then and now—burn with ferocity. The eyes flash anger.

She cannot understand how her picture has touched so many. She does not know the power of those eyes.

Such knife-thin odds. That she would be alive. That she could be found. That she could endure such loss. Surely, in the face of such bitterness the spirit could atrophy. How, she was asked, had she survived?

The answer came wrapped in unshakable certitude.

"It was," said Sharbat Gula, "the will of God."

Unquote:

In her answer, I got my answer by the time I completed writing this blog.

To read more about Sharbat Gula, visit http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2002/04/afghan-girl/index-text/1
Source: National Geographic website.

Santhosh Kumar

I dont sit in my chair anymore, so does my friend!

What a good status message I read from one of my old friends.

"Strangers become friends and friends are becoming strangers during the same lifetime"

Its not that I am blaming my friend or I am blaming myself neither it is restricted to my experience. Its the same all over, everywhere & almost with everyone. I have no topic, no words to talk to my old friend. Silence seems to prevail even though we know each other how Important is he/she to me and how Important I to her/him. Whats the invisble wall which is distancing? Is it the "Ego" ? or is it something else. Still I have intention to continue our friendship, still the same is the case from my friend. But something restricts!

Unknown easiness was there earlier, where conversations sailed smoothly hours together with no content at all! Implicit acceptance of mistakes,was there ealrier, where you can talk wahteever you want, least bothered by where you are walking together during the blabber! Unconditional strength was there to laugh & smile together, no matter what the situation was!





Where have those days gone? where have those friends gone? where has gone that friendship? I am sure this is felt by everyone as the life takes head on, & as the days pass by!

Or simply put it in other words, have I grown old enough??

Is anybody listening?

Isn't it sad that my chairs are empty now --my friend does not accompany me & I dont sit in it either!




Santhosh!